Are you addicted to approval?
An addiction is something that controls people something they feel they cannot do without or something they do to alleviate pain or pressure. It comes in many varieties, such as drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, shopping, eating, work, and yes approval. Like any addict, insecure people look for a ‘fix’ when they get shaky. They need someone to reaffirm them and assure them that everything is all right. -Joyce Meyer
I am currently reading the book Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need To Please Everyone by Joyce Meyer.
This book is helping me to see the areas in my life that I need to work on.
For years I have sought the approval of others which has lead me to stay in some unhealthy relationships in the past.
Because of my insecurities, I was looking for others to validate me. When they would not approve I would feel that I was not good enough. So then I would try harder to please.
Sometimes I would say yes when I wanted to say no. I would do anything to have their approval even if it meant I would compromise my values. I would do anything to avoid the pain of rejection.
However, I was never truly happy because I wasn’t being true to myself. I was allowing what people thought about me to be more important than what God thinks about me.
This is my second time reading this book. The first time I read it was many years ago. I am getting so much more out of the book this time around.
If you are a people pleaser or struggle with approval addiction I highly recommend this book.